One year Tom decided to elevate the discussion and, in the process, open himself up in a way few husbands ever do. He developed a list of questions over a few months, basing them on issues he knew were of concern to Jeannie, and then sprung them on her at breakfast one morning during a retreat in the Rockies.

有一年，Tom决定提升他们谈话的质量，在这个过程中，他把自己敞开给他的妻子，而这一点是很多丈夫们做不到的。他用了几个月的时间设计了一些问题。这些问题是他所了解到与Jeannie有关的。当他们在洛基山度假时的一个早晨，他把这些问题抛给他的妻子。

Optional: Have I overlooked any question you would like for me to ask?

选项：我有没有忽略什么问题你希望我问的？

Before her death in 2015, Tom reviewed these same 10 questions with Jeannie many times. When he told me about this experience, I couldn’t help but think it was a perfect illustration of 1 Peter 3:7, which instructs husbands, "You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life ..."

在2015年Jeannie去世之前，Tom重复这十个问题很多次。当他跟我分享这段经历时，我禁不住想，这刚好是彼得前书3:7的完美诠释：“你们作丈夫的也要按情理（原文是知识）和妻子同住；因她比你软弱（比你软弱：原文作是软弱的器皿），与你一同承受生命之恩的，所以要敬重她。这样，便叫你们的祷告没有阻碍。 (彼得前书 3:7 和合本)”