Serve  your wife

According to the New Testament, being head of your wife does not mean being her master, but her servant. Again, Christ is our model for this type of leadership. Jesus did not just talk about serving; He demonstrated it when he washed His disciples' feet (John 13:1-17). Christ, the Head of the Church, took on the very nature of a servant when He was made in human likeness (Philippians 2:7).

根据新约，做妻子的头不是要成为她的主人，而是她的仆人。在强调一次，基督就是作为领导的榜样。耶稣并没有只是说说，在为门徒们洗脚时，他完美地诠释了服侍。（约翰福音13:1-7）基督，教会的头，在他还是人的时候取了奴仆的样式。（腓立比书2:7）

One of the best ways to serve your wife is to understand her needs and try to meet them. Do you know what your wife's top three needs are right now? If she is a young mother, she has a certain set of basic needs. If your children are grown and gone and you are in the empty nest, your wife has a different set of needs that you should try to meet. What is she worried about? What troubles her? What type of pressure does she feel? Learn the answers to questions like that, and then do what you can to reduce her worries, her troubles, her pressures.

服侍你的妻子最好的方法之一就是理解她的需要，并且满足他们的需要。你知道你妻子目前的前三位的需要吗？如果她是刚当妈妈不久，那么她一定有很多基本需要。如果你的孩子们已经成人，离家，你们正值空巢期，那么你的妻子会有很多不同的需要。她在担心什么？是什么困扰了她？她感受到的是怎样的压力？寻求一下这些问题的答案，然后尽力降低她的担心，她的困难，她的压力。

What do you know about your wife's hopes and dreams? I bet she has plenty—do you know what they are? Are you cultivating her gifts? If she has a knack for decorating, do you help her develop that?

对于你妻子的期望和梦想，你知道些什么？我敢说她有很多，你知道吗？你有没有给她送礼物？如果她很有装饰的天赋，你会不会帮助她开发她的潜能？

Another way to serve your wife is to provide for her. This provision first involves assuming responsibility for meeting the material needs of the family. 

另一个服侍你妻子的方式，就是供给她。这一项首先要有责任满足家庭的物质需要。

1 Timothy 5:8 tells us, "But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an unbeliever."

提摩太前书5:8告诉我们：人若不看顾亲属，就是背了真道，比不信的人还不好，不看顾自己家里的人，更是如此。 (提摩太前书 5:8 和合本)

Providing for your wife also means taking the initiative in helping meet her spiritual needs. You do this by modeling godly character, by praying with her, by spending time together in God's Word, and by looking for ways to encourage her spiritually.

供给你的妻子同样意味着主动满足她们灵里的需要。你要模仿上帝的样式，为她祷告，花时间读圣经，还有在灵里鼓励她。

To be a leader, a lover, and a servant is to accommodate your life to the life of the gift God has given you—your wife. Give up your life for hers and, at the judgment seat of Christ, He will say, "Well done, thou good and faithful servant." 

当一个带领者，一个爱人，一个仆人，需要你调整好自己的生活，为了尽量满足你的妻子的生活，那是来自上帝的礼物。为了她放弃你的生活，在基督的宝座上，祂会对你说“做得好，我又良善又忠心的好仆人。“